Tuesday, 28 February 2017

Every Choice is a Renunciation

"Grasping at things can only yield one of two results: Either the thing you are grasping at disappears, or you yourself disappear. It is only a matter of which occurs first." - Goenka

In Southern India, locals catch monkeys in an innovative manner. Or rather, they allow the monkeys to trap themselves. By cutting a small hole in a coconut, just large enough for a monkey to put its hand in, they fill it with a sweet. The monkey gets a whiff of the sweet, puts its hand into the coconut, wraps its hand around the sweet and suddenly realizes that its fist cannot be pulled back out of the hole. Ironically, the monkey never thinks of letting go of the sweet and becomes a prisoner to its own greed and desires. An easy prey for its human predator.

While it’s easy for us humans to be smug about the monkey’s folly, the story in truth applies to our own human desires and greed. Trying to fulfil human cravings and desires is like emptying the ocean on the inland – an endless task and ultimately utterly futile.

The 40 period of Lent which commences with Ash Wednesday today offers us the perfect time to reflect on our lives goals and desires, renew wherever we are in that process, and renounce that which we have understood as being meaningless to our evolution. These 40 days become a period of Divine Analysis and Therapy for Christians and many others around the world. It’s a time to go back to our basics and segregate our superfluous wants from our essential needs. A time to renounce the needless excesses of our body and mind.

Reflection is critical for meaningful renunciation. 6 key steps include:
1.     Self Observation – Do I really need that person or thing? Am I exaggeratedly attached to its perceived qualities?
2.     Apply Wisdom – Comprehend your excessive attachment to that object or person. Let go if required to be free. Be wiser than the monkey.
3.     Ponder on Impermanence – Everything and everyone eventually returns to dust! Now how vital is that object or person to you?
4.     The Inconvenience of Attachments – Every object we own and every relationship we have brings its own share of burdens. Weigh its worth carefully.
5.     Reflect on the End Result of Attachments – Desires can many a time lead to theft, crime, addiction, abuse and even war. Isn’t such attachment equivalent to distress and suffering? Are the repercussions that follow worth it?
6.     Death is the only Reality – What is the worth of that attachment or object at the moment of death? The purpose of reflecting on death is to bring a real change in the core of our being. Contemplation on the reality of Death opens our inner wisdom and vision to what really matters, and what we intend to do with our lives here on earth.

Every choice is a renunciation. To select one thing is to turn your back on another. Renunciation is not about abandoning your loved ones but embracing the entire world as your family. Renunciation is not about shaving your head, but dispelling negative emotions and thoughts from the insides of your mind. It’s not about discarding accountability, but rather concentrating on results that can benefit many. In a nutshell, renunciation encompasses the higher qualities of mercy, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness and love for all.

As Shunryu Suzuki rightly sums up, “Renunciation is not giving up the things of the world, but accepting that they go away.” 

Monday, 27 February 2017

For the Beauty Lies Within the Pause

“He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.” – Albert Einstein

Effective communication has become a rarity, given the manifold distressing situations, emergencies, stringent deadlines and pressures facing us every single day. Meaningful dialogues have become exceptionally uncommon, especially in high pressure, heated situations. It’s more so difficult because rarely do we pause to pay attention to what the other person is saying or even to what we’re rattling off, therein defeating the very purpose of our verbal exchange.

Mindful communication is both an art and a science which means being present in what you are saying, while you are saying it, with an accepting and nonjudgmental attitude. It showcases your genuine engagement with the dialogue and a willingness to undertake the conversation with a higher objective. It displays a synchronized, calm, in the moment, broad minded attention curve while conversing with others.

How do we practise this every day?  Inculcate the habit of bringing attention to your words. Be aware of what you’re saying, while you are saying it. Observe, don’t evaluate. Pay attention to others with a committed moment-to-moment awareness. A few simple easy to remember tips when synchronizing your body and mind while talking include:
1.     Speak Slowly
2.     Articulate Clearly
3.     Listen to Yourself
4.     Listen to Others
5.     Be to the Point, Simple and Concise
6.     Regard Silence as a vital part of the speech

A lot of right words and fancy terms can be very effective in browbeating your verbal opponent, but no word can ever be as effective as a rightly timed pause. When you notice your conversations spinning out of control, breathe in deeply and press the pause button.

Good mindful communication is essential to any healthy relationship, personal or professional. The choice is yours. You can opt to hit the panic button and continue a mindless dialogue with an aim to win and prove your superiority. Or you can simply press the pause button and momentarily freeze the entire scenario in front of you as you figure out how to astutely play it out. In that rare second of pause, think through the situation well, contemplate, recognize the consequences, and determine the benefit or loss that may accrue causing you perhaps a lifetime of happiness or regret. 

Mindful communication can make or break a scenario. And the pause could hold that vital key to a successful dialogue. As Lori Deschene says, Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you're about to react harshly and you'll avoid doing and saying things you'll later regret.” 

Wednesday, 22 February 2017

Fuel Not the Worthless Fires of Hatred

“Let no man pull you so low as to hate him.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Many of us feel justified in our hatred. When someone or something you have fondly created or deeply love is taken away from you all you can think about is hatred, anger and maybe even revenge. The word Hatred in itself is a profound descriptor. When you experience it, it goes beyond the realm of nouns, verbs or adjectives. It’s a really strong experience, almost like a tremor within ... waves of hot crimson vengeful energy pushing through your heart, mind and entire body, obliterating your intellect to everything around you. Maybe that's why our actions are very irrational when they arise from anger. The physical, mental and psychological reaction seem so foolish and uncalled for when we look back at them after a few hours, days, weeks or even years. And that’s because the anger arose from an area of utter nonsense.

So the key question here is, “Is Anger Favourable?” Then ask yourself "Am I truly contented and joyful when I'm angry?" The answer is a resounding NO. We may feel a heady rush of spectacular physical energy due to the sudden adrenaline kick, but mentally we feel all messed up. Additionally, our verbal tirade gets catastrophic. We may yell loudly, say a lot of horrid things that we don’t really mean or are true, and wave our fist or fingers rudely at the other person. Under the influence of anger, we end up doing and saying a lot of things that we regret later. Unfortunately, your repute and years of trust get damaged in a few minutes of unrestrained anger...

Thus, it’s obvious to see that anger and hatred achieve nothing lasting or gratifying for you. But alas, situations will continue to abound and arise constantly testing you patience and anger levels every single day. If only one could domesticate this wild beast...so many unpleasant consequences and painful memories could be avoided.

The good news is that this is not too difficult a task given that we humans are rational, logical, intelligent, evolved beings, capable of reason and reasonable judgement. If we look within, we will comprehend that the blueprint of our reactions can be found deep within our mind. Many a time, self-defeating behaviours arise out past hurts and ignorance. Similarly, the key to success also lies within. Through a regular process of self-discipline, introspection, self-awareness, and consciousness comes the knowledge of the defects and defeats of anger. And from that arise the converse positive behaviours of love, mercy, compassion, tolerance and peace. 

Inner peace cannot co-exist with anger. Indeed, negative emotions challenge the very foundation of peace and happiness. When you gradually learn to control your anger and show its reverse via love, empathy, acceptance and serenity, not only will you remain in peace, but the anger of others can only slowly diminish. Peace of mind can only be achieved through a daily meditative and conscious process of generating loving kindness and tolerance towards others and yourself. And it is through this recurrent process that anger and hatred can be finally wiped out from your thoughts, vocabulary and deeds permanently.

As Master ChengYen says, “To be angry is to let others' mistakes punish yourself. To forgive others is to be good to yourself.” 

Be kind to yourself. It is but one precious life you have. Make the most of it and fill every moment with unbridled joy, love and peace...

Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Embrace your Wounds

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.” – Oprah Winfrey

There is an old saying in Tibetan, 'Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.' No matter the problems, hurts, betrayals or grief you may be undergoing, the misfortune doesn’t lay in the depth of the painful experience... the real tragedy lies when we simply give up and lose Hope.

Yes, bad things do happen. But you’re not alone in your grief. It happens to everyone. Just look around you...and I mean really LOOK around. Everyone is hurting. Physically, mentally, emotionally...at all levels pain is existent. But it’s how we respond to the grief that defines our moral fibre and ultimately determines the outcome of our life.

Our generation has been brought up to be very disapproving of showcasing our negative emotions. If we think they’re too painful or boorish, we try to dress them up with affirmative thoughts and make them more respectable. When we manipulate our feelings, consciously or unconsciously, we’re trying to fit into social decorum...but that’s just another way of losing our connection with our inner spiritual energy and wisdom.

Running away from and evading our emotions is futile. The fear of facing pain may temporarily take us away from feeling the hurt...but unfortunately escapism takes us only further away from being human... a holistic lively, animate, feeling human being. We can choose to sit in bewilderment, immobilized by the depth of our wounds, or we can choose to rise from the ashes of our pain and treasure the most precious gift we have – Life itself. 

There’s nothing wrong with having feelings of grief and facing our emotions. Dark emotions are a fundamental part of who we are — an expression of our basic intelligence, evolution and creative energy. When we connect with the core essence of our emotions, they can become a great source of wisdom and compassion. Our emotions can open up our heart and mind. They can teach us the noble qualities of selfless love, compassion, kindness, tolerance, and valour.

Feeling our pain and working through our dark emotions is a progressive part of our multi-faceted life journey... accepting this is important for our growth.  Identifying the painful emotion and working through it will be hardest thing you will ever do. Experiencing the grief will become the most valiant fight you will ever face. Allow yourself to feel it. Releasing these dark and painful emotions are illuminating, cleansing, and healing. Face bravely pain’s cleansing blaze, for you will emerge on the other side at some point, stronger and more complete. Let go of old feelings and obsolete chapters in your life, so as to let in new and more powerful emotions and pages in your book of life.

Just as we don’t discard money or masterpieces in our garbage, we must realize that all our emotions comprise our valuable resources. To become free of the confusion and unhappiness they can cause in our relationships and life, we only have to respect and accept our emotions, moment by moment, and be willing to work with them till we become capable of channelizing the wounds and darkness within into creative strength, light and wisdom. This will not only make us stronger, calmer and wiser beings, but also help us live more complete and fulfilled lives.

As Kenji Miyazawa wisely observed, “We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.”

Wednesday, 15 February 2017

The Foe & Friend Within

“Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?” – Abraham Lincoln

Most of us encounter quarrels and disagreements with others on a habitual basis. We are competitive with some; we instinctively dislike the others; we even maintain a stoic silence for a lifetime with a few. But thankfully, very few of us in the modern era have true sworn enemies in the militia sense. 

We tend to impulsively segregate the external world into good versus evil; black versus white. Many a time these judgements are erroneous and based on no historical facts or reality. The atypical manner of compartmentalizing people into friends, enemies, and strangers based on our perception on how they make us feel is both flawed and a great barrier to developing loving kindness for all living beings. Rather than holding on so tightly to our discriminations of the external world, it would be much more useful for us to learn to discriminate between our real and worthless states of mind.

All mental states and therefore experiences are created initially by the mind. The Mind is the real Master. The thoughts we have today arise from our experiences and beliefs shaped from our past, and our current thoughts and judgements continue to build our life for tomorrow. An endless cycle, and a lifetime of entrapment! In a nutshell, our entire life is simply a construction and manifestation of our Mind!

The adversary of the misguided mind is born ‘IN’ the mind and ‘OF’ the mind. If the mind is focused, calm, well directed and fixed on the absolute and pure Truth, the Enemy created within gets annihilated, and a Friend stands there instead.

And in case there is a long standing enmity or grudge that you are holding on to and find difficult to let go of, remember the words of Jesus, “Love your enemies." Because Love contains the seed of redemption, and offers the strength to heal any transgression. Love, mercy and compassion are the only powers in the Universe that can transform people and melt the coldest hearts. No matter how uphill the task, just keep sending loving thoughts to that person. Forgive their transgressions. They may rebel against you or repel your love, but don’t deter. Keep at it. And one day, the immense power of love will break the chains that bind both of you, to finally set you free. Use the power of love to heal your past, break down your barriers and chains, and build bridges for a bright and liberated future.

As the Buddha said, “It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.”

May the Force of a Pure, Peaceful, Introspective and Loving Mind be with you!

Tuesday, 14 February 2017

For it is in pardoning, that we are pardoned...

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Forgiveness is a 2 forked road. All through life, people will betray you, hurt you, wrong you, and treat you dreadfully. Let the Universe deal with them. Let go of the hurt, otherwise the hatred nurtured in your heart will damage you forever. To be wounded is trivial, unless you persist on nursing its memory forever.

You retort, “Easier said than done!” Keep in mind, every action is reactive of a similar situation. Most people offend others as a result of their own inner pain. If somebody is uncouth or offensive to you, you can almost be certain that they have some deep unresolved issues plaguing them within. Issues like unspoken anger, grief, bitterness or loss are being coped with. Forgive them, as they know no better way to cope with the trauma. Be the bigger person. The last thing they need is for you to make matters worse by reacting irately.

It’s important to forgive. I am certainly not advocating liking your offenders, becoming best friends with them, or texting them smileys and heartfelt messages. We have to forgive them, because if we don't we are doomed to carry a heavy burden on our backs. Hatred and revenge is a double edged sword. Don't forgive them because they deserve it... Forgive them because they need it ...and above all, because you need it. As Criss Jami beautifully puts it, “Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” 

Forgiving others is just the first fork of the road. The second parallel fork on this road is ‘Inner Forgiveness’. I realized through the trials of life that the one person I need to ask for forgiveness from the most is ‘Myself’. It’s vital to love yourself and nurture the habit of forgiving yourself, every single day. Every time you instinctively recall a weakness, an inadequacy, a shortcoming or a blemish within you, you have to tell yourself "It’s OK”. We are all creatures of God who are collectively on a continuous path of evolution. Learn to absolve yourself to such an extent that you don't even see those flaws and cracks within you anymore. It is critical that we forgive ourselves for our past mistakes. We need to learn from our blunders and simply move on. Because we matter, and everything we feel, think or do is important and profoundly impacts the world around us.

The willingness to forgive others and oneself on a daily and immediate basis is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. It is one of the greatest qualities that we should all aspire for. Can you envisage a world filled with people willing both to instantaneously forgive and ready to genuinely accept an apology? What a wonderful world that would be? The largesse of human spirit, humility and love could resolve any problem plaguing the world. Forgiveness would be our generation’s greatest contribution to healing an angry and damaged world. 

Every time you pardon others or yourself, the universe changes! Every time you reach out and heal a heart with love, the cosmos transforms! Every random or conscious act of loving kindness, mercy, compassion or selfless service will alter the energy across the universe. And in this process of loving and forgiving, nothing will be the same again.

Monday, 13 February 2017

What’s Love Got to do with it?

“If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; it will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love.”  - Anon

So I have been making a list of the things they don't teach you at B-School. They don't teach about love. On how to love someone. Or how to handle fame. How to manage being wealthy, jobless or poor. They certainly don't train you on how to walk out of a loveless career or relationship. They don't educate you on probing minds or even mind control. They don't advise you on how to cope with grief, loss or death. Funnily, I realized that I learnt nothing of real value from B-School that I would need for the next 5 decades of my life!

So on the eve of Valentine’s Day I decided to go down memory lane, explore deep within my heart, and pen down an essential checklist based on life experience drawing parallels between love, career and life. You may ask “What’s Love got to do with it?”....Well, read on...

1.     Do only what you truly love – In my twenties I was too caught up chasing deadlines and climbing the corporate ladder to even try to become the kind of person others would want to be friends with or even in a relationship with. We were taught to be aggressive, accomplish targets and generate phenomenal ROI’s, but we weren’t trained to be nice genuine people. On looking back, I wish I hadn’t raced so mindlessly in my 20’s and 30’s. Thankfully fate intervened and sense prevailed in my 40’s. I learnt to pause and finally develop into the human being I looked up to. I learnt to balance the pie chart of my life better, meditate, get to know myself better, nurture my skills and talents, explore new avenues and hobbies, only take up jobs that excited me, and take advantage of diverse opportunities that I never had time to pursue. Slowly but surely, this set a reverse cycle in motion and I started attracting the very kind of people I always wished to meet and befriend.

2.     The Law of Attraction - You are most attractive when you’re fully enjoying yourself in the present. Your joyful laughter, self-expression, and body language are naturally beautiful! In contrast, any anxiety you experience as you strain to find happiness, growth and romance pushes against the stream of life. Strain comes from a place of trauma and fear, with an underlying worry: “Maybe I won’t receive this! Maybe I am not deserving of this!” That fear then attracts the very thing you fret most about. Stress creates wrinkles, health issues, an irksome vocal tone, a cold harsh personality, and a host of other unattractive characteristics that repels every person and career from you.

3.     Cherish the Reality, not the Delusion – Follow your passion. Be it a person or a career, ensure that you are truly in love with the real thing and not the dream that you have unrealistically envisaged. As long as your passion is pure, don’t give a hoot for the views or comments of the external world. It’s your life, and you will know you have made the right choice every day as you head to work with a spring in your step or return home with a big smile on your face to see your beloved.

4.     Take your time – Be it a career or romance...nothing brews in a day! If it’s a job, do thorough research. Check around, ask key questions, work part time, view customer and employee testimonials before you chuck up your current position for this post. And if it’s a personal relationship, have patience to wait until the rose-tinted glasses fade out and you can see the person for their true colours. Be patient and prepared to wait for the right job and people to come into your life. Yes, trust me, they do exist!

5.     Don’t ever be forced to say Yes – An empowering life lesson indeed, and one that takes years to learn. And the only way you can reach this point is by knowing who you are, what you want, what you deserve, and demarcating your boundaries. It’s not an easy gamble, but it will pay off. You need to have faith and stand up for yourself when a disagreeable situation presents itself.

6.     Forgive – Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you’re endorsing someone’s bad behavior. It’s more a detox that states “I’m no longer will­ing to carry any further toxic energy within my mind and body with regard to this person or situation.” This is much needed in an age where careers are chucked up in the most ungracious manner and relationships end on a sour note. When you find inner peace with your relationships, you’ll no longer attract unhealthy relationship patterns and partners as a way of healing emotional wounds. And above all, the relationship you have with yourself will benefit.

7.     All Good things take time – The impatience levels of the current generation boggles me. If you fall head over heels in love in a matter of seconds, you might want to rethink. Be patient getting to know someone who may gradually turn out to not be what you expected. Similarly, when starting out on a career, you will you normally find yourself at the bottom of the pack. It takes time, effort, persistence and loads of patience to harvest the benefits. Take adequate time to put in the effort, but also check out if your loved one or your office is willing to meet you half way and wish to put in the effort to get to know and reward your toil.

8.     Have Faith in Divine Timing – Yes, Divine timing does exist and is a Universal Law that is always in action. It is the flow of life and everything around us. If we try to impose our human will and force things to happen, we become out of sync with the universe and experience obstacles. Similarly, if we fret, “When will I meet my soul mate?” or “When will I get my promotion?” we put out “worry” energy into the universe. Keep your faith and follow your heart, even if it doesn’t co-relate to the logic of your mind or the counsel of your peers. Your sixth sense is like a guide dog, leading you along the path of answered prayers. Follow your intuition and trust in the timing of the relationship.

I am sure that that these lessons garnered on the parallels of love, career and life will continue to accumulate as long as I live, and what better than Valentine’s Day to share it with all of you. In a nutshell, remain true to yourself no matter what. A person who lies to himself and believes his own lie reaches a point where he can’t distinguish the truth within or externally, and so loses perspective and respect for himself and others. And gradually he ceases to love or live.

I hope these insights help you seek out the love you so deserve in the year ahead!

Sunday, 12 February 2017

The Gift of Solitude

“Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god.” – Aristotle

I love solitude. I have always been great at disconnecting with the world around me and disappearing. Friends can vouch for this emphatically. It’s almost like a religious hibernation, without which I feel disoriented, pressured and all jumbled up in my head.

The merits of solitude have been celebrated for centuries. As Pascal said, “All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone.” Yet over the past decades, with the advent of social media and smartphones, we started developing an aversion to being on our own, and the idea of solitude became confused with loneliness – both of which were shunned vigorously. However, if we have no understanding of solitude and the virtues it brings, we start to equate loneliness with isolation and social stigma. This gradually translates into an impoverishment of our experience. If we don’t comprehend the advantages of solitude, we are left only with the perceived panic of being alone.

Solitude is a vital component of creativity. Most creative people across multiple domains are usually introverts. This is probably because introverts are comfortable spending time alone, and solitude is an essential and undervalued ingredient for creativity. Some of the greatest artists, scientists and thinkers including Darwin, Picasso and Goethe worked in utter solitude and praised its virtues. “The best thinking has been done in solitude” said Thomas A. Edison; “Without great solitude no serious work is possible” quoted Pablo Picasso; “Talent is nurtured in solitude … A creation of importance can only be produced when its author isolates himself, it is a child of solitude” quipped Johann Wolfgang Von Göethe.

Research now proves that group brainstorming does not produce the best ideas, and instead people working alone generate a greater number of innovative and creative thoughts. Dialogue can augment comprehension, but solitude seems to be the core of brilliance. The more powerful and inventive a mind, the more it will tilt towards the creed of solitude. 

So how can you start taking advantage of solitude to increase your efficiency and creativity:

1.     Learn to Value Silence - Switch off from the external and digital world. Find a few quiet minutes every day for yourself. Once you start feeling secure in a completely silent atmosphere, you can start using it to your advantage.

2.     A Penny for your Thoughts - For many, ‘me-time’ seems like a waste of time. But our brain must get an opportunity to halt and sort out all that’s going on around it 24X7. All you need is 10 minutes each day to enable your brain to relax, reboot and restart. Those 10 minutes can be a complete game-changer.

3.     Know yourself BetterTake time out to do something you love. Go to the opera alone, hike through the mountains on your own, spend a weekend by yourself by the beach. Switch off your gadgets and give yourself some respect. This could be the recipe for finally getting to know your true self better.

4.     Quiet your MindMeditate! You will be surprised by the long term benefits that meditations can bestow on your body and mind. Yes, it’s tough initially, but keep at it. It really pays! The more you practice, the more you'll become fully aware, and awaken your inner consciousness. The pause can help take your mind away from the grief of the past or the concerns about the future, and simply BE in the current moment.

While I am not advocating becoming a recluse, there are many benefits to spending at least some time alone. Reflecting on your actions, and focusing on future personal improvements are the cornerstones of productive solitude. Carving out time to do these things can help make you happier, stronger and more accountable. The process allows you to step back, then return to your work with more insight, compassion and vigor.

As Michel de Montaigne said, “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” 

Thursday, 9 February 2017


“People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What we choose to see in our external world is a part of that which lies within, and what we choose to project into the outer world finds its way back to us. In simpler terms, it’s the Law of Karma. Or as they say in science, the Law of Relativity. Any force pushed outwardly will return in equal if not greater measure. So anger is returned with anger, similarly love begets love. Ultimately it’s your pick!

In today’s world there’s an abundance of pessimistic feelings and dark thoughts that we are putting out there that seem to be magnetically attracting additional negativity and despondency back into our lives. When we continually feel anger at the centre of our being, we are also manifesting anger in our outer world, therein setting a chain of reactions that attract greater anger back into our lives. In a sense, we are cyclically creating our own reality!

If you are reeling under a host of negative emotions such as frustration, fear, anxiety, anger or depression, rather that projecting it outwards, it makes better sense to sit down and introspect. Undertake some self scrutiny and take stock of what really ails. Real healing happens only when we introspect and get to the root of the issue.

All of us are seeking peace and happiness. Instead of projecting dark emotions externally and lashing out at others, we need to go within and seek out ways by which we can address the grief, rage and injustices that we are feeling within. Ask yourself what you have done to create these situations. Keep in mind that you are in control of your life and shedding blame externally only gives away your power to others. Until you don’t accept that you have played a role in manifesting this reality around you, and that you need to consciously change, your life will continue to spiral downwards into this self created abyss.

Change your Reflection. Be proactive in your inner search, and in spreading love, harmony and peace into the external world. Because you receive in exact measure what you reflect out into the universe!